march for life

The Truest Lie

I just finished saying goodbye to my 4-month-old granddaughter—a cherubic face and a smile that ignites grace in the soul of anyone who happens to catch her eye. Her presence means a bit more to us because of the challenges her mother went through to bring her life.

I remember well the sacrifices my daughter made as she chose to conceive, carry, and give birth to that little girl. It was a rollercoaster of emotions and difficult times for nearly every day throughout and up until the actual birth. 

She exercised her choice (yes—that word again) and gave birth to a healthy little girl who has brought joy into everyone’s life, more joy than anyone could previously conceive ahead of time. 


Each conversation about abortion sends a sharp pain to my heart. Bringing about life is one of the rare times that we, as humans, are able to co-create with God.

My heart hurts not just because the New York legislation has allowed late-term abortions—they weren’t even the first or the last state to do so.

 It’s not just that the law makers blatantly and shockingly broke into applause as they did so as well as lit up the World Trade Center in celebration—pink, reminiscent of the pink baby afghans I crocheted for all 5 of my newborn granddaughters.

It’s not just that the very act of abortion is incredibly violent—that of dismembering the child to remove it from the womb. Ironically, a pro-life movie received an R rating because, according to the MPAA, it contains “disturbing/bloody images.” The MPAA refuses to alter the rating “unless all scenes of abortions are removed or altered.” (Here’s another interesting Daily Signal article about that rating.)

I understand the sacrifices women make as they become mothers: it may not always happen in the timing of their choosing, the toll a pregnancy takes on their bodies, the emotional changes, and not to mention the monetary challenges.

It’s that my heart aches not only for that aborted child, but more so for the loss those women will experience. Statistically less than 1% of abortions are due to actual physically dangerous situations. In most states more than 40% of abortions are performed through the choice of the mother. 


Years ago I attended a lecture by a law school professor who was very active in the Pro Life fight, testifying before congress and the United Nations. At the time I was pregnant with my third child and he said something that I hadn’t really considered before but that I think about constantly today, seeing the truth in his observations.

He said that with Pro-choice groups very little is said about the baby, and with Pro-life groups very little is said about the mother.

And that’s where the sorrow comes in. To carry a child to full term despite the challenges and timing requires faith – and a village. I will concede that some of these women have very little support, whether from friends or family. They may panic at the idea of raising a child on their own. I get that. A child deserves a mother and a father, despite the cultural rhetoric and junk science that claims the contrary.

If I could change a few things I would offer more cultural support for the pregnant woman that felt she could not raise a child at this time. A support that would allow them the privilege of bringing joy and life to the thousands of couples—male and female partners—who are anxious to raise a child of their own through adoption, many of them willing to offer all kinds of support to the pregnant woman. Or, at the very least, support for those brave single mothers.

Despite all of the challenges my daughter went through—and there were many I myself did not have to confront with my own pregnancies—she is so grateful today that this little girl is in our lives.

There are many, many unexpected challenges that arrive in any given human being’s life. Some are harder than others and some people have a greater support system. But to terminate a life with a false promise that a woman’s life will be better and that there will be no consequences because of her decision is more than folly. It is evil. It is harmful—to that woman and to our society and culture as a whole. No choice is ever, ever made in a vacuum. 

Taking a life with the promise of no emotional, physical, or cultural consequences is the great lie of today. And anyone who attempts to perpetuate that lie will one day answer for that deception and the harm they have caused.


Author’s note: For anyone who has been lured by the lie or has a loved one that has suffered because of an abortion, there are many counseling groups that can help. One is Project Rachel—Hope After Abortion. It lists resources and agencies listed by state.

Truth and Unity

In the national news we witnessed the 46thannual March for Life, are encouraged to send brick gifts for Nancy, and are waiting to see who will blink first in the government shutdown: Dems or Don.

 Some takeaways for Montgomery County voters and members to think about from this auspicious beginning to 2019:

 Can we really change truth? Not long ago we had moved from a “Big T” Truth to a “little t” truth, and casually merged into a full-blown “alternative facts” rule-of-thumb. We’ve morphed from “illegal aliens” to “undocumented immigrants”, from “life” to a “non-human” (that just happens to have a heartbeat.) Border solutions seem to also have taken a “small t” turn, thinking and naively hoping that a political shield is all the security one needs.

 Our judicial system is unapologetically peeking under the blindfold of justice while marching glibly to the tune of the pied piper of politics

 I’ve been reading George Washington’s last circular letterto the states and his emphasizing the need for unity in our nation. He wisely noted, “. . . if their Citizens should not be completely free and happy, the fault will be entirely their own.” He goes on to challenge these same citizens, to either be happy or miserable; that we as a nation have been given a great gift and our security and happiness depends upon our conduct: “whether they will be respectable and prosperous, or contemptible and miserable as a Nation.”

 He continues with a list of four things that are essential to this well-being. Number four is what caught my attention:

“The prevalence of that pacific and friendly Disposition, among the People of the United States, which will induce them to forget their local prejudices and policies, to make those mutual concessions which are requisite to the general prosperity, and in some instances, to sacrifice their individual advantages to the interest of the Community.”

Security is at its biggest threat not when there is disagreement or alternative solutions, but infighting and disunity. A blatant disregard for laws—of our country, state, county, or party—will leave us weak and confused about where to go and who the real enemy is: blurring and attempting to erase truth.

 Let’s take a beat, inhale this good ole’ Texas air, and see what we are doing to serve our sweet Montgomery county, how we can “forget [our] personal prejudices and policies,” working for a general prosperity.  We can laugh at the tit-for-tat back and forth between Nan and Don, but their eye for an eye philosophy will eventually leaves us all blind. 

 We don’t have to hold hands and sing Kumbaya, but must to get back to the basics of law, constitutional integrity, and community prosperity. 

 Stay strong Montgomery County,2019 will be our best year yet.